Tuesday, April 12, 2016

Our father's first death anniversary

It was this day last year when I received the message about my father's passage from this material world to the ethereal world. We (my mother, myself, my brother and sister) learnt in our own way to deal with our grief and cope with his loss. We all were left with two choices - either remember him with tears or smile on our happy memories!  Our mother has shown amazing strength in making us see the bigger picture and always usher us into a happy and peaceful place.

It was like predestined when we all had a family reunion in December 2014, four months earlier to his passing. My parents enjoyed the company of all their children alongwith their families. With everybody literally spread out across the globe, we felt lucky to have spent quality time with our parents.

My father's loss has taught us the bigger meaning of life. Be in the present and enjoy the moment! At the end, we leave everything here in this world. So, do we want to reach the end with peace and happiness or with negative feelings of any kind? During this one year, we have continued to remove negative feelings from our heart and mind and make more room for only positive energy. The more positive is our mind, the stronger we are to face anything in life. Like our bank balance, we yearn for more credits(happiness) than debits(sorrows).

The date is just a mere time tracker,  but we remember our father every day of our life. Dates and times may fade but memories never fade. The memories are what makes our lives worthwhile. When you flashback and scour for happy moments, you'd be surprised at the limitless numbers.

We pray for his peaceful soul and urge all of you to send happy waves to the cosmos!

We all love you daddy, wishing for your happiness wherever you are in the Universe!

Some of the many happy moments together!

December 2014
When the whole family was together

With all the daughters of the family



2nd March 2006



June 2004 in Kashmir









18 comments:

  1. Well written jaishrie

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    1. Thank you didi for being a support to mummy!

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  2. True Jaishrie... I remember uncle very much.. most importantly the way uncle and aunt brought you up....

    he was intelligent and most caring...... whenever we are in Delhi, he made sure we are enjoying our vacation ..

    I even have the gifts they gave me on our first visit to Delhi (idols of Ganesh and Lakshmi) and i remember the music concert you, Vinayakk and Ramaa gave on that day in your house.

    ---- Jyothi

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    1. Those are really kind words Jyothi! It is nice to read that his memories extend with families beyond ours. Thank you for sharing those with us!

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    2. It is really very touching and emotional moment to share.The way you are feeling and remembering your father's demise with courage I appreciate,wherever you father is in the heaven ,his blessings for all his children , will be there for ever and all the happy moments of your family along with your father will always store in your mind .maa

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    3. Thank you ma for the kind words. I really like how our close ones share little incidents that they remember, help us relive the moments!

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  3. Very well written.
    Uncle must be very proud of his children as all of you are great human beings and wonderful friends, daughter, sister, wife, mother.
    It was wonderful to have quality discussions on the dining table whenever I visited u all though uncle would remain quiet mostly and would express more through his face and nod of his head if he agreed with something.( very nice pics especially the entire family pic)
    His soul rest in peace.
    Lots of love
    Stuti

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    1. Thank you Stuti for sharing your experiences with us, brings back scenes from the past. Those were fun days, having long discussions at the dining table. Life moves on..!

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  4. Very well said Jaish! U are strong and I can see that it comes from both your parents. Lovely pics !

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    1. Thank you Neeta. Yes we were always encouraged to fight our weaknesses and convert them into strengths.

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  5. Very well written Jaishrie

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  6. U are very strong Jaishrie and you have derived that strength from your amazing family. Memories are a treasure forever. God bless. Keep writing and do good. Your parents are and will always be proud of you.

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    1. Thanks Kavitha for those kind words. Yes you are right memories stay forever...

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  7. Jyoti JonnalagaddaApril 14, 2016 at 12:00 AM

    Dear Jai, Vinayakk & Ramaa.

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful eulogy on Dad's anniversary. Missing dad is especially poignant, I can understand that the loss is still felt through every passing day.

    I also know that you will keep his memory alive,
    and honor all he believed,
    And just feel so very grateful
    For all his love that you have received.

    Thinking of you all

    With hugs,
    Jyoti didi

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    1. Thanks didi, we are really lucky to be blessed with an amazing family, including the extended family. Everybody has shown care and concern in their own way which is very touching and warm. :)

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